Putting A.A. first no matter what.

In A.A. we are reminded that as long as we put A.A. first "everything that we put second will be first class."  It appears paradoxical to the newcomer that if we put our recovery program first all of the other things will be fine and if we do it the other way around, put our recovery program second or third, or even further down the list, we are courting disaster.  A man I know after achieving a pretty good recovery has been re-united with one of his daughters (and the rest oif his family) and he is determined to help her, and make up for lost time.  It prevents him from working the program that he accepted for himself. I was talking to him about it and he was full of "Yeah, buts." I hope my worry is misplaced.